By: Martha Morales
It is absolutely necessary that an adolescent is chaste in order to be happy. Do not get confused; do not think most young people have sexual relations. They don’t! There is a lot to know and think before accepting to have sex.
Sexual relations between adolescents are a risk for your body, for your emotions and for your future. It is very comforting to know that there is more and more abstinence among young people in the United States.
It is true that there are young people that decide to have sexual relations; but it is you who will have to live with the consequences of your decision. There are many ways to express your love without having intimate relations. Try to avoid those situations that intensify sexual emotions. It is easier to “stop” then.
Carlos Beltramo says kisses and caresses agitate hormones. Sometimes you, as a young person, could say: “Hormones cannot be stopped” And, where were you? We ask. In a park at 3 o’clock in the morning …well, yes I was there since 8 o’clock in the evening with my girlfriend. Who made the choice? Who exposed to that situation? Impulsivity is normal when you get too close: a little bit, a little bit more, a third kiss. Then “we are very tired, let’s sit on the couch” Ask yourself: Why did you go into that apartment with her? It is like riding a horse and dig in your spurs.
There are some adolescents that think: “If she does not give in it means she does not love me” Falling in love is easily destroyed with negative experiences, true love grows with difficult experiences.
In order to live pure (chastity), keep yourself busy with sports and group activities.
For some adolescents, sexuality is an idle pleasant activity, that is why love is not very deep and there is little wish to remain together for ever. Falling in love is full of experiences. You do not choose it, it surprises you. One day you feel in love.
If you and your partner cannot get to an agreement, it would be better that you look for another person, who thinks more like you. Saying “no” may be the best way to say “I truly love you”. Chastity is not a rejection or underestimation of love. It rather means defending love from selfishness.
I repeat: It is absolutely necessary that an adolescent is chaste in order to be happy. Masturbation and pornography make the individual looks for his/her pleasure at the rhythm of his/her sexual impulses. It provides pleasure but it does not help to learn how to be happy or how to love.
People need to grow in patience. This is a very common deficit in modern society because immediate satisfaction is promoted since early childhood. In order to strengthen patience virtue, it is important not to give in to impatience, in doing so we weaken the virtue and strengthen the defect. It is worthwhile growing in good habits and wait!
