By: Karina Güitrón Ramos
As you know, there are a lot of physical and psychological changes that occur in our body during puberty and adolescence. Most of these changes go hand in hand with emotional changes. One example is that we feel very proud and happy that we are turning into adults. Together with these kind of positive feelings we also experiment not so wonderful feelings. It is not strange that you feel melancholic, depressed and many times without any apparent reason. The new hormones that are being produced in our body at this age affect our emotions and are partly responsible that you feel this way.
Our body and emotions need time to get used to this new changes, sometimes it might seem overwhelming and we feel insecure, anxious or depressed. It is totally normal to have these kind of feelings. Knowing that other kids of your same age feel the same won’t make you feel better in a second, but it will help you to know that you are not alone and that you are not the only one going through these changes.
The idea of becoming an independent adult might turn out to be a little threatening, there are times when we feel that people around us, specially our parents prevent us from this development, but this does not mean that you and your parents are not able to solve puberty problems. Sometimes we or our parents are not able to solve or face these changes and there are conflicts that arise between them and us that seem like a total war. At the beginning of adolescence you still depend on your parents, but as time goes by a new relationship establishes where you will be completely independent in the future. But this change in the relationship, where you go from being dependent to being independent does not flow without difficulties and a great part of the anger, tension and negative feelings that are experienced are related to this change.
The relationship with our friends also changes, such changes may cause insecurity, depression and confusion, it is very likely that you start making new friends and you stop seeing friends from childhood. Breaking old friendship bonds and establishing new ones is not easy. Sometimes we feel part of a group and this helps us to feel accepted, less insecure and less alone; but there are some other times that acceptance to belong to a group is complicated and you might feel lonely or not wanting to do what the others do or even feeling obliged to act in a certain way.
Other important change that takes place during this stage of life is, beyond any doubt, the relationship and attraction to the opposite sex, suddenly, everything changes and it is probable that we fall in love with someone; it can be fun or painful.
Our pass to adulthood is full of every kind of experiences, there are a lot of physical changes, changes in life, changes in our relationships, with our parents, friends, opposite sex, you will have to face all this changes, they are part of your life, of your own person, of the wonderful adventure of becoming a man or a woman.
