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When our dating come to an end
By: Dado Moura
The novelty of the first moments of dating brings to life a different color, a stimulus that neither distance, nor even the worst of weather conditions could turn the lovers from postponing a meeting with each other. The most romantic couples are bursting alive on their mobile phones continuously sending passionate messages. They call each other just to say "I miss you," sending flowers and other things that fill their passionate hearts.
After some time, and without reason, the romanticism between them, which was expected to last forever, will slowly lose commitment and strength. The lack of interest that happens now is justified by "weak excuses", among other things which were not part of the relationship originally. It seems that such relationship has been fed by only one of them.
Unfortunately, the evidence points to ways that perhaps the most passionate of them does not want to read the signs...maybe due to a long time of their acquaintance or perhaps he/she still believes that everything could change and that old passion between them will revive.
Working towards common goals is the basis of all heathly relationships. This co-operation lies in the predisposition of changing our self concept in order to promote the happiness for whom we love. So why should anyone insist on dating if first there is not the same mutual focus and committment to maintain the relationship?
I believe that no relationship could be maintained for a long time by one of the couples. The end of a relationship rarely happens through an easy accord between couples. Then the one who still feels passionate, as if he was taken by blindness, may try to rekindle the relationship even though he or she is now only partially matched to what is desired. Everything will be a difficult situation to "digest", which will only hurt the self-esteem of the one who feels abandoned.
Once the relationship is broken, it will be necessary for the two to take time to recover their emotions and to be able to analyze everything experienced during the relationship. Through our personal relationships, we have learned to understand and assimilate situations which we could not even imagine to be able to endure alone. Therefore, once faced, these situations make us more and more secure.
Though this process may be painful, it will be useful and it will serve as parameter for evaluation on the qualities and interests desired for the future of other relationships, as well it will teach us to ponder our own behavior and expectations of living a life for both.
Even if you are stunned from hurt feelings at the disruption, the resumption of your activities of entertainment and living with friends will always be important. Otherwise, closing up and living in fear of the world will take you to the darkness levels of discouragement.
Dado Moura
This article was transated from original site in Portuguese: www.dadomoura.com
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